That hilarious weird “vanilla fetish”
I volunteer up at Chicago’s own Leather Archives and Museum; because I have some archival experience, they’ve lately had me sort a bunch of ephemera. I look forward to my time at the Archives — every...
View ArticleBDSM-related relationship screwups
Bloody Laughter has recently started a fantastic series of posts about BDSM screwups, and how it would be helpful if the BDSM community were more willing to talk about the encounters we’ve had that...
View Article“Vanilla”: dissection of a term
One of my favorite people, who happens to be relatively vanilla, asked me to write a post on the term. Who am I to refuse? On the most basic level, “vanilla” is just a word the BDSM community uses to...
View ArticleThe S&M feminist
UPDATE 2012: I’ve now published a collection of my best articles titled The S&M Feminist: Best Of Clarisse Thorn. * * * Readers of my blog have told me that my actual feminist opinions are sort of...
View ArticleBDSM vs. Vanilla, Part 1: Why I Pretend I Don’t Date Vanilla-But-Questioning Men
I’ve been thinking a lot about “mainstream” sex versus “alternative” sex. In the S&M community we have a term, “vanilla”, which basically indicates “people who aren’t into BDSM”. But is there...
View ArticleS&M Superpowers
I’ve gotten so bored of the biases and stereotypes against S&M. It’s like, “Hey, another person who implies that those of us who do consensual S&M were all abused as children? Sweet! That...
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